In this supposedly modern world, many self-proclaimed practical people believe that it is not just whether two people love each other or not. The question therefore arises as to whether they can be compatible in the long run- whether two uniquely different personalities can be truly perfect together on all levels for a lifetime.
Can this be achieved?
Lovers can spend a lifetime assessing mutual compatibility and never find a unique constant as the answer.
Looking at this problem from the angle of calculus, it is like trying to find limits to a function that tends to approach infinity progressively.
And when the seekers cannot accept that, they reverse the approach and find that the the other limit tends to approach zero, or a null state.
Thus, it is a paradox that will emotionally cost the seeker either way, if limits are applied to it and a constant is sought after as a unique solution.
Human experience shows that lovers can never really understand each others' personalities completely.
Compatibility is a very relative concept with dynamic outcomes as a result of the dynamic variables that make up personalities at different stages of life.
The better approach to relationship success is adaptability, which is also the basic key to survival in any ecosystem.
Quoting a law coined by the late Arthur C Clarke, distinguished scientist and writer:
"The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible."
And the only way to venture past is to actually take the ride into the unknown.
Love cannot be questioned and need not be justified.
And this, gentle reader, is the axiom.
- K
August 4, 2011
